Wednesday, April 25, 2012

Tomorrow..

I've very conflicted about tomorrow..

Its a complicated day for me.

Its my wedding anniversary, but also a date that marks a deep betrayal of trust.

Its also my day off..

But I'm spending it at home with my kids while my husband will be out of town from 9 am to 9 pm.

And, its a day I'm hoping will prove to be less disappointing than it was last year.

If Anyone wants to bring me a bottle of black swan Shiraz and some sushi tomorrow and come celebrate/mourn my day with me, be my guest.  I'll just be here doing laundry and reading.


Monday, April 23, 2012

Sisters

I have a very large family.
I'm the 2nd oldest out of 9 kids.
Yup, NINE.

there were 5 girls and 4 boys.

So, I have a lot of practice being a sister.

Here are some of the not so great things about sisters.

  • They're hormonal, especially in their teens.
  • They use your makeup and stuff. and sometimes they wear your clothes on the same day You wanted to wear them ( even though you didn't know you wanted to wear it until you saw them in it)
  • They look better in your clothes than you do. 
  • They will embarrass you in front of the boys you like.
  • When you get older and you still have little sitters at home and they're a lot like you were, they will drive you EFFING CRAZY!
Here are some fantastical things about sisters.
  • They understand your families particular brand of crazy
  • You can borrow their clothes and their makeup and stuff.
  • You will sometimes look better in their clothes than they do.
  • You can embarrass them in front of boys they like.
  • When you are older and you have little sisters that are still at home and are a lot like you were, you can DRIVE THEM crazy!
All kidding aside though, I have the most diverse and amazing sisters in my family.

My older sister, who I always thought was never faced with a hard decision in her life, NOW that I've gotten older is awe inspiring to me. She is a committed Stay at home mom to 6 kids ( which would cause me to be a different kind of committed), she learned ( against all odds) how to cook, she home-schools, she is starting up a TJed Co-Op, she runs a Inspirational Mothering Blog http://empoweringmothers.wordpress.com/ ( check it out YO!), and is looking at writing a book. Freakin' Rock-star!

My Sister 4 years younger than me, totally different. Although I know I'm not supposed to have Favorites she's the one I'm closest to.  She is a different kind of rock-star. The kind with Killer Pipes! For Real! This Girl can SING! on top of that she plays the piano, wicked good. Not to mention that she's a single mom to 2 adorable and crazy smart littles. She battles Anxiety and Depression and a host of other demons every day, and she still gets up and gets on with things every. single. day. Even when she's out of sorts and holding on to a very thin worn down thread, you can see that she's a strong and talented person. There are amazing things that are going to come from her down the road. just wait and see. :)

My next sister, Just turned 23. She's living in Washington State. She's Vegan, and not because its trendy. Because she honestly and truly believes in not only sanctity of life ( even for animals) but because she wants them to have comfortable, loved existences, and not just be treated as a source of food ( like most dairy cows and factory farm chickens are). She does not compromise her beliefs for anything or anyone. she has taking a lot of verbal fire from people who should be supporting her ( family and friends) but still she stand strong. She has unique personal challenges as far as her living situation and her choices being so different than the rest of the family, but she has a wonderfully strong sense of self and is very tuned into Spirit and is one of the most genuinely accepting and loving people I've ever had the privileged to know.  She just needs to learn not to second guess herself so much. That will come. :) 

the youngest? She's far too much like me. I can see that her stubbornness will serve her well when she gets older. Her ability to speak up will be both a blessing and a curse. she internal fire will burn brightly once she finds a good outlet for it. until then? we're just gonna hold on, because if her teen years are anything like mine we're in for a bumpy ride! ;)

There are a few other Ladies that I have in my life that are like sister. I feel like they are people who I had soul agreements with. people who are my sisters in spirit. I could go on all day about these Titans of Female Prowess, But then this post would be FAR too long.  

I have been so very blessed with the sisters in my life. They are my "village". They are the hearth I go to to warm my soul and to sit and listen and learn and talk. Without them, I would not be the same.

Friday, April 20, 2012

Thursday, April 19, 2012

Quitting is for winners.

Or, rather, knowing when to quit is for winners.

I'm someone who wants to hang on to the familiar and comfortable for far longer than I should. Far past when its no longer serving me and I'm no longer serving it. 

I'm working on quitting this behavior, because it does not serve my goals.

There are other things that are no longer serving my growth or the long term ideas I have for my self and my family that I will most likely be quitting too..

But for now, in an attempt to clear out things to make room for new blessings, here is a list of things that I've been working on quitting.


  • Smoking every day. ( this has been going quite well.. I have only had a hand full of cigarettes in the last month, and I'm ok with that.)


  •  Doing ANYTHING out of a place of guilt.
  • Extra projects that can be put on the back burner while I get other plans into motion.
  • Taking blame that does not belong to me.


  • Using stability as an excuse to not grow and expand


What are you quitting to help you be a winner?

Perfection is an excuse.

I'm sick of people thinking they have to act perfect, look perfect, have a perfect house, a perfect marriage, a perfect car, perfect kids, the perfect job that pays the perfect amount..

Its a sell out.

Its an excuse to not be real, to not do the gutsy things in life.

Make a damn mistake people! 

Get dirty!

Mess stuff up!

Make seemingly inane decisions... if that's what makes your soul sing!

Get real!

Because the only kind of perfect I'll EVER believe you are, is if you're being perfectly you.

THAT you cant fake. 

Do the hard stuff and get real with your self, because the facade of perfection will fail you eventually. 

Wednesday, April 18, 2012

OWN IT!

This is short sweet, and meat to be a reminder to myself:

Stand up.

Speak up.

Do what you feel.

Take credit.

Accept responsibility.

Its your life, you call the shots, so 

OWN IT!
 

And that's all folks 

Tuesday, April 17, 2012

Normal is overrated.

My life is not normal by any definition of the word.

I hate that word. 

"Normal".

"the Norm"

.. it denotes Mediocrity, Absence of excitement, Flavorlessness, Blah, Boredom.

My life is not roller-coaster type exciting, its actually relatively calm, and calm is good.. but its also filled with extraordinary things.


Here are just a few of the things that are not "Normal" in my life.


  • I had all of my darling children at home, with all the excitement, blood, tears, noise, pain, bliss, and crazy feel goods that go along with that.  Ever want to know how powerful you really are? Do this! It will rock your world, and make you know you can do anything.
  • I was home schooled.
  • I knew my husband for 10 years before we got married. But I knew the first day I met him that he was important to my life story. 
  • I have a large amount of connections. I have people for everything.. I know someone in almost every state and country, and in almost every profession. I don't know everything, or even close, but I probably know who to ask! 
  • I've always known I had odd skills and challenges. especially when it comes to healing.
  • The wider my circle of friends gets the smaller my world gets.
  • I Love health foods and non chemical things and I will talk your ear off about the evils of pharmaceuticals, but I also love the occasional cigarette, glass of wine, and candy bar, and I'm addicted to coke and coffee. 
  • I hate shoes
  • And pants.
  • I feel like I was born in the wrong era.
I thrive on extraordinary, I dig exceptional. I get high on other people being crazy excited about things. I adore passion

There's no place for normal in all that. No "median range" in exceptional. The bell curve is for suckers. 

And my dirty little secret is.. 

I have shoved myself into "normal" for far too long. I've made sacrifices on the alter of " getting by". Step by step that's coming to an end. 

Exciting? yes. Terrifying? Hell yes! 

Necessary, in the extreme though. 

How do you feel about Normal? 

Someone told me the other day that my 6 year old was just not normal.. my response? "Thank GOD!"